Ask My Sista
A really good advice column by Sista Mama
Dear Sista Mama:
My best friend is a male. We've been best friends for over 13 years. He
wanted a relationship about 8 years ago, but I wasn't ready...I was trying to get myself
together with college and all. Needless to say, he married someone else. We remained
friends though. He told me back in 1997 that he had gotten divorced and all that he had
been through. We started hanging out more often. We have never been intimate, but have
come close many times (we both wanted to make sure it was what we wanted because we knew
what the next step would be). A few months ago, he came to me expressing that he'd like to
start a life with me. I have always loved him, so I was overwhelmed. A few days ago, a
very close family member of his revealed to me that he's still married and never divorced!
He even lied about the sex and names of his two kids. Why? I can't figure this out. I know
that he wanted to be with me before he married, and maybe even now-possibly always have,
but why lie? We have always been friends. We use to discuss things that most girlfriends
talk about. We knew each other's moods and everything. He even went to my Mom to discuss
his feelings for me. I am so hurt, confused, and humiliated. I'm beside myself. I don't
know what I'm going to say or how I may react the next time I see or talk to him. What do
you think about this?
Recently a distant relative sent me a letter desperately pleading for a
$1,000 loan. Although I have some money, $1,000 is quite bit of money to give away (I know
I won't get it back). The guilt is overwhelming. What should I tell my relative?
I am 16 years old and I have never had a boyfriend. I have filled out in
all of the right places except for my behind. I'm not ugly, I have hair, and my teeth are
straight. The only problem is my butt is as flat as a pancake. I need some tips on how to
get a butt before the first of the year.
Dear Sista Mama:
How can I let my friend know that she has bad breath ?
Offering her gum and/or mints has not helped. Please send a solution soon before I
have to avoid her, we have been friends too long for that.
Are you nuts? Have no friends you can talk to? Were you born without common sense? Is life all about you, you, you? Do you push the elevator call button repeatedly even after having seen someone else press it first? Never fear! Sista Mama is here. She can give you advice on most any question. Who is Sista Mama? Quite frankly, she's someone who is not nuts, is a great friend, was born with common sense, considers others, and has no elevator-call-button issues. Forget Oprah! Let Sista Mama help you. Send questions to: Ask My Sista@tonygreen.com. Not all questions will get a response but those that do will be posted in future columns on this site.
Disclaimer: Sista Mama is not a doctor. If you need professional help, seek professional advice.
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